Oh honey I’m so sorry. I’m sorry because I haven’t even read the other comments but I can tell you already that many MANY other women have these problems or one’s very similar to it with their husbands. My sister divorced her husband because he was pretty much as you describe your husband. Of course divorce just 100 hundred percent guarantees that you will be doing everything on your own so I can understand if it’s not appealing even if you didn’t love him. I hope something makes him see the light and change.