What I see between the lines is that you married two “guess” culture men. Your current husband is dropping hints that he would like you to cook; you are under no obligation to even respond to passive aggressive behavior like that. I think I’m a pretty good cook, and I cook almost exclusively only for myself. My husband cooks most of his own meals, partly because he is a vegetarian and I am not. He will tease me sometimes because I have a penchant for putting yogurt in everything (hey, Greek yogurt is a healthier alternative to sour cream and tastes pretty similar!) but I don’t really care if he thinks I’m a good cook or not because I know how to cook food that *I* like to eat. I wish you the confidence to not give a shit what any man thinks about your cooking.